Touch

Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.

Happy Six Months

Whole-hearted listening

Young couples often dream of growing old together. How can you really stay together for a lifetime? Are feelings of happiness the kind of "glue" that keeps people together? Not likely, and certainly not alone. What about commitment? Does it take a strict sense of duty and conscious decisions to make a lifetime marriage possible? That's part of it. But there is something more.

Day-to-day activities and events give partners shared experiences and memories. Over time, these small moments grow into a shared history that is deep and binding. We feel strongly connected to our another half not just because we feel love for him or her, but because we have a life together, every day, including good times, and bad times.

Another way is simply to listen to our partner with our full attention. Supportive, whole-hearted listening lets our partner know that he or she is really our first priority. It takes time and effort to understand one another and to be cheerleaders for each other.

How to Keep Love Growing Through the Ups And Downs

You trust each other that you won't run off if things get bad - you know you're in it for the long haul.

You've seen each other at your best, and you've seen each other on those rumpled mornings when you feel completely awful. Yes, you know you're both not perfect. But what you are, you accept with love and affection. Your relationship isn't about rushing to look fancy all the time - you like each other just the way you are normally. If you start to get grumpy about something, one of you will back off and talk about it later. You grow to learn when one of you is upset about a topic and to work around it. If you've reached this stage - this is what real love is all about.

Although things may start out wonderfully in the beginning, there is always the fear that it won't last, that difficulties will arise, feelings will start to change. Then when things alter, as they naturally must, many have the mistaken idea that the love is disappearing.


When we initially fall in love, we feel we have found the perfect person? A tremendous excitement takes over. We project many wonderful qualities upon our partner and block out any faults. Then we feel that we, too, must be so wonderful to have a partner who is so ideal.

This is a huge demand to make upon another person, but it happens anyway. When this demand is not fulfilled, a deep disappointment can arise. It seems as though the partner has failed us, but in truth it is the unrealistic demands we have made that is causing pain.

No one has to change for you to love them. Nor do you have to change to be worthy of love. You can never change enough to please another person. The work of love is to be able to love the other just as they are, and to also love yourself.

The work of love is the work of learning to accept the other person, and also to accept yourself. Love is not a feeling that stays the same all the time. Love is a verb. It grows as we face change and difficulty.

What do you do when your boyfriend's ex still wants to be friends with him?

Someone ask me: What do you do when your boyfriend's ex still wants to be friends with him but you are afraid it could develop into more?

Let him be friends with her. Don't let the jealously take over your emotions, let him decide. Because if you tell him what to do, and he doesn't like it he'll find a way to be her friend behind your back if that's what he wants to do. Plus, they broke up for a reason, and he is with you now. Although I'd been burnt once on this, relationships are built on trust, love and respect, so you must love him, otherwise the relationship is pointless. If he loves you and you love him, trust him to make the right decision.

Where's your fire?

Every idea begins with a spark of inspiration. That spark is always created by the friction of a desire rubbing up against a barrier. We come equipped with a load of desires. When our desires are easily satisfied, they burn themselves out. There's no longer a need for passion. So we move up our hierarchy of needs to until we find another barrier. That's just the way we are. Pretty soon, we're headed for the moon.

We can sit for hours, fascinated with the warmth, glow, and dance of a fire. Just as we can satisfy ourselves reading biographies of great explorers, inventors, and conquerors. Or watching the exploits of passionate people on TV and in the movies. Or following them in the news.

These pictures of great lives and harrowing adventures stoke the fires of our passions. Some of us take our passions one step further. Like the greats, we make a promise. We commit to following our passion where it leads. Once we make our picture public, we are seldom alone. Our creative fire attracts the creative fire of other people focused on the same or a similar picture.

How can you keep your creative fire hot without getting burned? If you're too worried about that, you've probably not going to make much creative fire.

昨天、今天、明天

當我們回顧過去、放眼未來時，會發現“今天”的顯現和顯現對境一個個即來即失，就如同坐在快速行駛的列車上看窗外的花草樹木。今天我們使用的物品、居住的房屋以及稱之為“我”的五蘊身體等等的一切，都不再是昨天的，因為昨天的一切已經顯現而又消失，走向了過去。時間，如同魔鬼般張著天地大的兇猛的嘴、呲著像陡峭的雪山般堅厲的牙，吞噬了這所有的一切。就當我轉動筆尖寫下這幾句話時，時間又已經悄無聲息地吞噬掉我們生命裏的寶貴幾分鐘，我們的壽命又已經減少了幾分鐘。

很多年前活潑可愛的你、現在年輕瀟灑的你、未來老態龍鍾的你，如果這三個不一樣的形像同時出現在你面前，你認為哪一個是真正的你？如果說這三個都是你，那麼你就變成了三個。這樣推算，每年都會出現新的你；如果再仔細計算，則每一刹那都會出現新的你，那你就變成無數個了；再進一步仔細分析，“一刹那”也可以細分，到最終，連細微的“一刹那”也找不到了。我們的身體並不是在童年、青年、老年分時段發生變化，也不是每個月才變化一次，而是不留痕跡地每一刹那都在發生變化。短暫的人生，不過是上演了一場生、老、病、死的短暫歌舞罷了，如同天空中劃出了一道刹那間的閃電，對如此短暫的人生，卻作長遠的打算，那只能是自己欺騙自己。

Talking to your brain

Hey wake up! We've got to write another article.
Give it a rest, will you?
Come on, you've got no reason to be so grumpy.
Reason? What's that?
You're so difficult to deal with sometimes.
No, I'm not.
Yes you are. I can never get you do what I want.
That's because you're always trying to control me.
But I need an idea. Now! You know I can't write without you.
You interrupted a wonderful daydream.
How am I supposed to get anything done with a better half like you?
What's to get done? Life is a process, not a product.
That's easy for you to say, up in there clouds, no contact with reality. But I have to write an article.
You want ideas, this is where they come from.
So give me an idea.
Are you listening?
Yes.
Promise to take good care of it?
Promise.
Promise to defend it against all your left-brain friends?
Promise.
Promise never to compromise it?
What do you want from me?
What do you think?
I have no idea.
Yes, you do. I just gave you one.
What?
You weren't writing it down?
Come on. Talking to yourself is bad enough, but writing it down, that's...
That's what?
...not a bad idea!
You're welcome.

The most creative brains

The New York PR agency, Porter Novelli, conducted a survey of 100 executives from America's top companies, They asked, "Which is more important, intelligence or creativity?" 59% cast their lot with creativity. 28% went with intelligence.

That's the good news. They also asked, "Do American schools do enough to foster creativity?"76% said no. Only 14% said yes. It's still good news for executives, though. According to the survey, tight budgets do little to limit creativity. And deadlines actually help. But consider whom they asked.

The most creative companies they could think of were Apple, 3M, McDonalds, and Disney. The most creative people they named were Ross Perot, Steven Jobs, and Thomas Edison. In that order, the most encouraging news is the belief among 88% of America’s most stellar executives that their"most creative days are ahead..." Nearly half said they were more creative than their bosses. And 43% said that they themselves have been accused of being "too creative." Way to go!

Finally, if you're looking for the best time to present your big idea to the boss, you gotta get 'em as early yin the morning as possible. That's when 46% say they are most creative. It drops dramatically throughout the rest of the day with a little positive blip in the evening.

Thinking with a pencil